What Are They Doing Now?

OK, so I'm going to tease my husband a bit.  We recently went to Oregon to spend some time with my sister and brother-in-law.  You know how it is when sisters are together...there is a lot to talk about! :)  Well, anytime that my husband couldn't hear what we were talking about, he thought we were whispering about them.  We teased him about it and pretended like we were talking about them when we really weren't.  Just to give him a hard time.

But, how many times have we all felt the same way?  I have!  I can be constantly and excessively worrying about what others are saying or doing...which leads to being paranoid and self conscious...which leads to untrue accusations and anger...which leads to broken relationships. 
All because of a feeling.

I am probably not the one who should be writing about this because I struggle greatly with it. I'm trying hard to grow.  

So, how does one handle this feeling, worrying about what others are doing or saying, the right way? 

Here are a few things I thought of to share:

Communicate.  Sometimes if we just ask, it can clear things up right away.  No guessing or presuming. (And if you are asked something, don't take offense.  And always be kind in your response.)

Always be honest.  Be the person that is always truthful.  How do you know if someone is honest?  Do you hear them being truthful to everyone around you?  Then you know they will be truthful to YOU.  

And people around you will know if YOU are that honest person as well.  And there is something about true honesty that is so healthy in any relationship.  And when you know someone is truly honest all the time, your trust will greatly increase.

Don't put too much investigation into things that you are better off not knowing.  You know sometimes, people will do things. They will say things to others.  It will happen.  If you happen to hear it or find out about it, it is not always necessary to hear the "whole story".  It's not wise to always investigate.  It is not always needful to confront that person.

So what can you do?
I think that by considering my actions first, I have solved the problem. 

What if it is solved by creating a peace in our own hearts...a peace of knowing I am doing what is good and right...and in the end, that is all that needs to matter. 

It stops mattering what someone else is doing.

That's a hard yet so needful thing.

What will give you peace? 
"Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee."  Isaiah 26:3
This is my life verse.  Trust in Him.  Let Him have control.